Dealing with the Pressures of Ministry

Dealing with the Pressures of Ministry:

The numbers are staggering. Eighty percent of pastors feel discouraged in their role and fifty percent would leave the ministry if they had another way of making a living. The numbers are even higher for the spouse where eighty five percent struggle with depression and eighty percent wish their spouse would choose another profession. Such numbers are too profound to overlook. To enter ministry is to enter a world of pain, discouragement and frustration. This can be especially pronounced in a rural area where pastors are isolated and often lack a support network. How then can we regain our perspective?
The first step to regaining our perspective is to maintain a biblical view of ourselves and our ministry. In many ways our culture has placed unrealistic expectations on us and upon our role. We are pressured to lead the church to new heights of attendance and increase the number of programs within the church, all with little funds and little help from the congregation. Furthermore, our culture has instilled within us the expectation that life should be free from difficulties and hardships. While we decry the health and wealth doctrine as being unbiblical, in reality we have accepted it in our view of ministry. The scriptures warn us that to enter ministry is to enter a life of difficulty and struggles (2 Corinthians 7:5; 11:24-29). We are in the midst of a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:12). While we may complain about the hardships we face, Paul saw it as a badge of honor to suffer for the cause of Christ (Colossians 1:24; see also Philippians 1:29 where the word “granted” is the Greek word referring to a graciously given gift). The reason he had this perspective is because he recognized that the strength from ministry comes not from ourselves or even our training, but from the hand of a sovereign and gracious God who empowers us to accomplish his purpose (Col 1:29).
The second step to regaining our perspective is to take care of ourselves and our family physically and emotionally. God recognized the importance of rest when he instituted the Sabbath day. This is equally true for us in ministry. Working seven days a week is a recipe for burnout in ministry and neglect of our spouse and family. We need to make sure that we take the time to be renewed and take the time to be with our family and spend time with our children. God makes it clear that he expects us first and foremost to care for the needs of our family so that the do not become the sacrificial lamb on the altar of ministry (1 Timothy 3:4-5).
The third step is we need to develop a network of individuals who can offer support, encouragement and perspective. Moses needed Aaron and Joshua, Paul needed Barnabas and Titus. Tragically seventy percent of pastors do not have a close friend, confidant, or mentor. We need to develop these relationships. It may be a fellow pastor in the community, it may be a fellow missionary, it may be a friend that we talk with once a week or month. If we do not have a close friend, then we need to start praying for one.
Fourth, we must seek help when we need it. Often there is a “pastoral pride” that exists that hinders us from seeking help. We feel the pressure to always have our act together and that it is somehow a sign of weakness to seek the help of others. We forget that we also are human beings struggling in a difficult ministry. There are times when we need to be “pastored.” There are times when we need the counsel and input of others. There is no shame it getting help. Proverbs states that it is the wise who seek the input of others. It is the fool who thinks that he does not need the assistance of others.
We need to realize that ministry has been, is, and always will be a difficult and painful calling. However, we must also realize that God’s grace is always sufficient and that where there is trouble there is also his sustaining hand.